Recently, my sister died of cancer. It's a horrible thing to witness, and a horrible thing to go through. What do you say to someone who has lost someone? It doesn't matter if it was cancer, or any other of the million and one ways that people can die...what do you say?
For me, I found that the best thing to hear was simply "I'm sorry," (or offer condolences) because there is NOTHING that you can say to make the loss any better. It tears a hole in your world- a large raging hole and life will never be the same. And it doesn't matter if you knew it was coming- when it happens, it hits hard.
However, a few people said some things that I just wanted to scream at them and tell them to fuck off, even if they meant well. For one thing, do not try to say things like, "she is in a better place now" or anything in that vein- "she's now part of the universe" or any other fucking bullshit like that because it does not help. Really, it doesn't.
It's a fine line of what works and what doesn't. With my sister, those that knew her, many did say that at least she was no longer suffering- and that is a sentiment I can deal with- that I can agree. Yes, it hurts she's gone, but with illness, it's torture watching someone in pain and suffering and there is nothing you can do. The drugs only help so much, and all you can do is watch them slip away. So, which is worse? Knowing the pain is over is actually a consolation, as much as you would want that person to be here, you don't want them here suffering. So that is a consolation.
But anything about where they might be, no. Just don't. You don't know for sure, and even if you believe what you're saying, it doesn't help. So shut the fuck up about that. Yes, we are all energy, we all go back to the source, we are all one, yada yada yada. But it doesn't help. So don't do it.
Saturday, September 09, 2017
Wednesday, May 18, 2016
Wednesday are not only yoga night, they are also food truck night. I mean, what better way to end a session of yoga than to go get some food?
The choices are great. For example, there was a grilled cheese truck. I thought, how many ways can you make grilled cheese? Well, apparently quite a few! Other choices included Greek, a donut truck, ice cream, burgers, and even a vegetarian truck!
Here, you can see one of the rows of trucks.
My friend and her kids went straight to the ice cream truck.
I love the white shirt and red bow tie. Very retro.
The boys, ice cream in hand!
It was time for me to keep looking around.
This one caught my eye. What can I say? I'm a sucker for newsprint.
I ended up ordering the Tribune-grilled chicken breast, applewood bacon, mozzarella, lettuce, tomato, mayo. They were actually out of lettuce, so they put spinach on it instead! Even better!
Here, Jimmy brings me my sammich.
It was amazing! Honestly, I meant to eat half and have the other half for lunch the next day.
But, well, yeah...I couldn't resist. I ended up eating all of it that night.
Sunday, May 08, 2016
He started up in the tree.
Then made his way to the feeder.
Then, after a little while, this other guy shows up, the blackbird. Although this photo is a bit blurry it makes me laugh because the woodpecker was not happy. Here he was screaming at the blackbird.
The blackbird did fly away. And then came back, a little further away.
Saturday, May 07, 2016
Monday, May 02, 2016
I never fully appreciated how amazing clouds are. Until they were no longer there. The sunny days of California were marked by an endless blue stretch of sky. But where were the clouds? The big puffy clouds that seem ever-present here in Florida? The rolling storm clouds? The wispy? The unusual? Where, o where could they be?? Usually not in California. Unless they were endless gray, or the fire clouds, neither of which were really that appealing.
Ever since moving back to Florida, my love and appreciation of these massive cumulonimbostraticumulocirrus darlings in the sky continues. Yes, I realize that is not actually a type of cloud, but that's how I feel about them. Driving back from California, my friend G. was amused by my exaggerated enthusiasm as we entered Florida and-Behold! Clouds!! She and I have now traded places; I am in Florida, and she is out in California. She now understands. Whereas other places might have hills and mountains, or some other geologic features, Florida is blessed with the most amazing array of clouds.
I mean really, look at this… oooh, clouds! It just wouldn't be the same without.
|Juno Beach Pier|
|On Singer Island, a storm moving in from inland|
|And here, a storm moving in over the ocean|
|Or this…like an angel's wing...|
|It's not always about the storm clouds though..|
|And these? Surreal.|
|Taken in Tampa. Reflections!|
|And finally, shot at night-an amazing storm out in the ocean.|